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Yeah I remember the last time I lost my cool.

My mom was in assisted living with dementia, she was supposed to be getting certain services and she wasn't.

I complained politely several times to no avail, and then I just tore into them -- though I have to say it was somewhat calculated -- I didn't just spontaneously lose my cool.

The upshot is, the things were fixed. I also knew that sometimes due to bureaucracy and bad policies, it's not necessarily the fault of the people on the ground when things are fucked up. So while I didn't overtly apologize, I showed some empathy.

Eventually, we had a meeting of the minds and they actually changed one of their policies.

What's my point? I guess sometimes you have to show you're pretty darned pissed off to get things done. But the reaction has to be appropriate -- and necessary.
That's understandable.

I don't have the stereotypical British reserve about complaining when services fall short - but equally, I take the time to commend and praise where its due.

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Yeah, make a pain of yourself and things miraculously happen, Well done fellah!
Oh yeah -- well fuck you, asshole!!!
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Oh yeah -- well fuck you, asshole!!!
I did not mean that in the negative sense, I literally meant if you make enough of a pain of yourself things happen... *sigh*
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Yeah, make a pain of yourself and things miraculously happen, Well done fellah!
That's how life works.

Being polite and discreet rarely gets satisfactory results.
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I did not mean that in the negative sense, I literally meant if you make enough of a pain of yourself things happen... *sigh*

Oh

I thought you were being shitty too...sorry Chin
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Originally Posted by Chinspinner View Post
I did not mean that in the negative sense, I literally meant if you make enough of a pain of yourself things happen... *sigh*
I understood you were not being ''shitty''.
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Originally Posted by E. Zamora View Post
Yeah I remember the last time I lost my cool.

My mom was in assisted living with dementia, she was supposed to be getting certain services and she wasn't.

I complained politely several times to no avail, and then I just tore into them -- though I have to say it was somewhat calculated -- I didn't just spontaneously lose my cool.

The upshot is, the things were fixed. I also knew that sometimes due to bureaucracy and bad policies, it's not necessarily the fault of the people on the ground when things are fucked up. So while I didn't overtly apologize, I showed some empathy.

Eventually, we had a meeting of the minds and they actually changed one of their policies.

What's my point? I guess sometimes you have to show you're pretty darned pissed off to get things done. But the reaction has to be appropriate -- and necessary.
I think there are times where you just need to let it out.
Glad you did and no harm done.
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I understood you were not being ''shitty''.
That's because you're so much sweeter than us
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Frankly, E Zamora needs to learn some common courtesy, or we can both pretend the other does not exist, because I have no time for people who lack basic manners.
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That's because you're so much sweeter than us
Grace your name says it all.
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[QUOTE=Chinspinner;749713]Frankly, E Zamora needs to learn some common courtesy, or we can both pretend the other does not exist, because I have no time for people who lack basic manners.

Ha ha!

ave you lost your sense of humor somewhere? Up your arse maybe? Go ahead and check... Ill wait.



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brian you are a very naughty boy!!

The Life of Brian of course. Do you know it?
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brian you are a very naughty boy!!



The Life of Brian of course. Do you know it?


My favorite of the Python films
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Originally Posted by Chinspinner View Post
Frankly, E Zamora needs to learn some common courtesy, or we can both pretend the other does not exist, because I have no time for people who lack basic manners.

Ha ha!

ave you lost your sense of humor somewhere? Up your arse maybe? Go ahead and check... Ill wait.



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Yeah, it disappeared here... next?
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I...ah...hell with it. Carry on.
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Originally Posted by Chinspinner View Post
Frankly, E Zamora needs to learn some common courtesy, or we can both pretend the other does not exist, because I have no time for people who lack basic manners.
He read it the same way as I did...

I thought you were being cutting and sarcastic...insensitively so, as he was talking about the care of his mum.

Your tongue often has a razor blade quality...
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He read it the same way as I did...

I thought you were being cutting and sarcastic...insensitively so, as he was talking about the care of his mum.

Your tongue often has a razor blade quality...
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Originally Posted by Chinspinner View Post
I did not mean that in the negative sense, I literally meant if you make enough of a pain of yourself things happen... *sigh*
Tee hee. I assumed you were being sincere. I was just testing to see if anything would miraculously happen.

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Yeah, it disappeared here... next?


So... you found it up your arse? Or no?
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As long as he's found it...
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As long as he's found it...


Hell find it. Fucking guys brilliant. If I were his dad Id kick him in the ass til he got off it and did something with all that brain power. Ya send a kid to school, buy him books, and all he does is eat the teacher.
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Originally Posted by E. Zamora View Post
Tee hee. I assumed you were being sincere. I was just testing to see if anything would miraculously happen.
Well, my apologies, seems I need to work on clarity... which btw, I am doing right now, with some... do I need to explain that further?
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